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Saturday 4 May 2013

American and Russian Daycares in the US or Do We Love Our Kids Differently?

It has been a while I did not write anything for my blog. I still live here, in California. Time flies. Life goes on. Things became pretty familiar and somehow aren't worth describing them.

Though I still see things that suprise, impress or even profoundly disturb me here in the USA.

My 2 years old daughter goes to the American daycare twice a week. I also consider to put her later in a Russian daycare. There are some of them here in the Bay Area: teachers are Russian and speak Russian with students, the way they deal with kids is somehow also familiar and known from our childhoods.

From what I saw until now, there are 2 main differences between Russian and American approaches to early childhood education. For convenience I'd call them "treatment" and "methodology".

1) treatment.



I will never say that Russian or American daycares treatments are better or worse. They are just different and basically reflect what we call "normal" in our respective societies.

a) food.

Russians, we all know what "goryachee pitanie" means. I'd translate it as "hot lunch" but it is not a word-for-word translation because in American culture you just do not have such a phenomenon. While in Russian daycares lunches are provided by a school with almost no exception, in American daycares lunches are often provided by parents and can be just a sandwich and chips, macaroni, cheese, carrots. Sometimes kid's lunch is the same as snack is, big snack but still a snack: one or two cheese slices, baby carrots, goldfish crackers and a fruit, no fish or meat included.

b) nap.

In most Russian daycares kids nap in pajamas, in beds. In American daycares kids nap with their shoes on (for fire safety reasons) and on the cots with or without a blanket. I am really not sure kids need those shoes on while napping but it is obligatory.

2) methodology.

Russian moms ofter want their children at an early age and later, of course, to learn. Do you remember Lenin's "learn, learn, learn"? Yes, we all remember it and basically follow this way. In American daycares academics are not so important at least for children 1 to 5-6 years old, social skills are, fun is. At American daycares teachers are here to accompany rather then to teach. If a child does not want, they do not force, sometimes do not even insist. They let it go.

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Friday 11 January 2013

Guns without Roses

There are a few things which are really disturbing for me here, in the US. One of them is the fact that everybody can buy a gun in every sports magazine along with a basket ball, a snowboard, a fitness outfit or whatever it is.
Every single month you read about school shootings, domestic or gang violence involving guns or tragic accidents like the recent one when 5- year-old Kentucky boy fatally shot his 2-year- old sister.

Fortunately, all the schools shooting do not end like Sandy Hook Elementary tragedy which claimed the life of 20 small kids and 6 adults. But still you see these pictures of terrifyings kids and crying parents and again and again a debate about a ban of assault weapons and a plan for curbing gun violence is back.

To understand this profound attachment of Americans to guns you have to understand that individual right to bear guns is a constitutional right and is a part of the 2-nd amendment dated December 1791.

But sometimes I just want to say "Come on guys, take it easy, you are safe and do not need guns anymore: Indians will not attack you". May be in a country where gun violence is one of the highest in the world, you might finally admit that 1791 and 2013 are two different epochs and there is something that needs to be changed.

Thursday 22 November 2012

Playing with words...

In the US it's better to be rich and healthy than poor and sick.
In France sometimes it's better to be poor when you're sick: social security is in charge of everything.
In Russia, if you're rich and healthy it's better not to tell it. Otherwise you can be poor and sick very soon.

Question of Trust

Americans trust the System, not people. Russians trust people, not the System.

Monday 5 November 2012

My American Election Top 5 Why's

The 2012 United States presidential election is scheduled to be held tomorrow, the 6th of November.

Here are my top 5 why's about this election:

1. Why American election takes place tomorrow, on Tuesday and not on Sunday as everywhere else?

2. Why American president Barack Obama voted before the election day and without his wife?



3. Why in the US presidential election the information about how much money Romney and Obama got in fundraising is more important that everything else?

4. Why Candidates' wifes convention speeches are so important and why they are so....stupidly touching?

Michelle Obama:
Our life before moving to Washington was filled with simple joys...Saturdays at soccer games, Sundays at grandma's house...and a date night for Barack and me was either dinner or a movie, because as an exhausted mom, I couldn't stay awake for both.

And the truth is, I loved the life we had built for our girls...I deeply loved the man I had built that life with...and I didn't want that to change if he became President.

I loved Barack just the way he was.

Imagine Ludmila Putina or Valerie Trierweiler saying this in front of a crowd of people.



5. How you can have a candidate running for a president (and, even more surprising, a candidate who can become a president) saying:
"There are 47 percent of the people who will vote for the president no matter what. All right, there are 47 percent who are with him, who are dependent upon government, who believe that they are victims, who believe that government has a responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health care, to food, to housing, to you name it. That that's an entitlement."


"If I'm president of the United States, I'm making it very clear, I love free trade. I want to open markets to free trade. But I will crack down on cheaters like China. They simply cannot continue to steal our jobs… "


"So in terms of a geopolitical foe a nation that is on the Security Council that has the heft of the Security Council and is of course a massive nuclear power, Russia is the geopolitical foe and the idea that our president is planning on doing something with them that he’s not willing to tell the American people before the election is something I find very, very alarming".



The only answer I can have for all these questions is "It's because we are in the United States".

Sunday 28 October 2012

How did I become a Halloween hater?

I do not like this holiday. And actually, I've become a Halloween anti-fan here, in the US. In Russia or in France it is somehow a marginal holiday. You can love it or not, you can celebrate it or not. There are some Halloween sales here and there, some nice Halloween parties for aduts and kids, kids knocking on the door for "Trick or treat"...

And it is fun when it is unique.

Here in California you can see pumpkins everywhere, costumes everywhere, obligatory Halloween parties in every single school, Halloween theme in every single shop and house. Everybody decores a house for Halloween and even transform their homes into haunted scary houses.


"How do I make my house look scary for Halloween so the kids are already scared". Are you crazy guys or what? How parents can even think of scaring their own kids? For me Halloween now is tons of thrown away pumpkins for pampkin carvings and all these scary bloody ghosts and monsters everywhere.

Halloween is a celebration of death although by definition a holiday for me is a celebration of life. Ironically I did not feel it this way in Europe. Why?

May be just because less is better and too much is too much.

Boo and pampkin cakes. They are ok for eating. But in some shops you can see bloody monster's hands or hearts as cakes.... you would never eat, at least me.

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Pampkin theme is everywhere

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Tuesday 25 September 2012

City-Sunshine

This charitable organization's name is City-Sunshine and it operates in Lipetsk (Russia) only on Wednesdays and Fridays from 2 to 3 pm. I do not know exactly what questions City-sunshine's members discuss and what project they carry out. I have never attended meetings they have during these 2 hours per week (I regret). But when I saw their door, the only thought that passed through my head was: Guys, before making your city shine, try to sweep your own doorstep and at least paint the door."


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Tuesday 18 September 2012

My Russia

This is my Russia.
Tradition and modernity, speed and slowness, beauty and lack of harmony and chaos, chaos everywhere....


Belaya ploshchad business center. Belorussky Station square. Moscow.


Monday 10 September 2012

Kids and Dogs

I cannot imagine this photo taken in the US or France. Unless you see parents behind. But in Russia everything is possible. A small girl walking a big dog on a leash. And it is looks like she barely controls the dog (it really looked this way when I saw them walkng).

May be I am just wrong and cannot really judge without having all the information (age of the girl, character of the dog, if the girl is used to go on walks with the dog...). But the scene kind of scared me. And I keep on asking myself if it was about "teaching responsibility" or "being irresponsible" as far as this girl's parents are concerned.

Russian Speakers Wanted in la Rochelle city (France). Urgent!

I live in California. There are so many Russian here, engineers, lawyers, doctors, teachers, stay-at-home moms, people from all backgrounds and professions. And it is so unbelievable to see such mistakes in Russian translations. Though, it is not California.
As far as I understand there are not so many Russians in la Rochelle city (south west of France). Not yet.


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Sunday 26 August 2012

Garage Sales are so popular in America

Today we went for a family walk and I noticed a lot of GARAGE SALE signs like this: IMG_0856.JPG IMG_0857.JPG

These are typical garage sale advertisment signs you can find in public places (especially bigs roads and crossroads). Garage sale can be called yard sale, moving sale (the ones I've heard a lot) but also rummage sale, tag sale, lawn sale, attic sale and even garbage sale, or junk sale (not very attractive names I think but it exists).

Items of garage sales can include clothes, toys, books, household goods etc.

Garage sales are very popular in America especially in spring and summer when the weather is good and sunny (here in California it is garage sales time).

Garage sales are widely advertised in the internet. There is a special rubric Garage and moving Sales in one of the most popular web resource: craigslist.org and other resources.


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Friday 24 August 2012

Child's knitted cotton hats are summer hits in Russia this year

When I was in Russia this summer I found interesting that a lot of small girls aged from 1 to 10 yo were wearing knitted cotton hats. It was a hot summer in Russia and I do not know if these hats actually protect well from the sun and if they do not heat even more. + 30 C and all these poor girls with their heads covered with knitted hats...
A girl should be beatiful even when she is small and even if it is so hot outside. Be beautiful! Endure! You are a future woman!
It is so Russian.

Friday 15 June 2012

Awsome and terrific!

I get confused with the American education system and ask myself a lot of questions about my daughter's future in the American school. For the moment she is too small to attend a school but time flies.
I found that I was not the only person asking myself a lot of questions. I know some moms here who are seriously considering a home education as an option because they are not satisfired with the school choice they have. One of the moms said to me: "Americans went too far in a child's personality development to the detriment of knowledge". Well said.
I found these stampes in a school classroom and think they illustrate well what I am awkwardly trying to describe above as "You are a winner" American phenomenon. No criticisme, go, go, go, you are awsome!

For those who cannot see the wording well: Saying in a positif way you have

GREAT WORK

TERRIFIC

SUPER JOB

VERY GOOD

FANTASTIC

Then you have a stamp PARENT SIGNATURE

And finally to say "it was not good" they used

PLEASE CORRECT AND RETURN

Nothing negative as you can see.

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When you come to San Francisco be sure to wear flowers in your hair....(2)

Usually I use only my own pictures for this blog but Anlosty's pictures are just so awsome. I couldn't help myself. They are done during the annual footrace in SF - Bay to Breakers - which took place on the third Sunday of May. I missed the event (that's why also Anlosty's pictures are in this post, not mine) and also the chance to see all these naked people around.
You will quickly understand why SF is the gay capital. Be careful if you have small kids with you now, just get them away from the screen! ))

San Francisco breakers:

Tuesday 12 June 2012

When you come to San Francisco be sure to wear flowers in your hair....

I always said Americans had bad taste in wearing things. Unfortunately, I just cannot take pictures of all Americans I see here every day wearing clothes which do not fit them because of a wrong color, size or inappropriate style for age or occasion.

Here are just some examples:


Too short, sorry

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pijama party?

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Friday 18 May 2012

Dog's Dolce Vita

Last weekend in San-Francisco I saw this pick up "In home pet care".

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Then a few minutes later I found this store on Union street.

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Not even all human beings can dream of what I saw in the store.
Cakes, cookies, pastries...

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On my way back from SF a few steps from the doggies bakery I saw this:

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Tuesday 1 May 2012

Obama's and Sarkozy's Videos Cause Culture Shock

Today I was shocked by 2 presidential videos:
American president Barack Obama at White House Dinner and candidate for the French presidential election Nicolas Sarkozy in his second round campaign clip.
Barack Obama funny speach shocked me by its form and Sarkozy's address - by its content.

Obama's speech is funny but I just cannot imagine any other president doing so....informal speech, making fun of himself and both political camps, being a comedian. It is so American and such a culture shock for Europeans: Obama's speech|en]

Sarkozy message is just shoking. If he thinks he will get Marine Le Pen votes with this message he is wrong. He is about to lose his last supporters. That what will happen in reality, I hope. Sarkozy's speech

Monday 23 April 2012

French Presidential Election Results Show Strong Radical Tendencies Within French Society

Today we saw the French presidential election results of the first round published:

François Hollande: 28.8%

Nicolas Sarkozy: 26.1%

Marine le Pen: 18.5%

Jean-Luc Mélenchon: 11.7%

François Bayrou: 8.8%

Eva Joly: 2.3%

Well, what can I say? Along with a big success of the Front National, we saw an overwhelming success of Left radicalism with Jean-Luc Mélenchon. As if we have two different France, both rather radically turned.

Gymboree - Place for Kids

We go with my daughter to Gymboree Play & Music classes. It is a kind of American club for kids and thier parents where kids can play, sing and learn (not to mix with Gymboree store).

All children are divided into different age groups. During the classes children experience music by singing and participating into different movement activities. Also there are a lot of games on the slides and some original activities like parachute time or when the purpet-clown Gymbo shows up.


Gymboree slides:

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My daughter's first painting made during Gymboree art&craft activity: IMG_0284.jpg

Tuesday 17 April 2012

Every Nation Has its Age

Americans are children: naive and never ashamed of asking because there are no stupid questions, trying, failing and trying again, dreaming, acting and achieving dreams.


Russians are teens: agressive if they do not know you but at the same time ready to do everything for friends or causes they believe in.


French are grown-ups: are afraid of a lot of things and think too much but reasonable and wise.


Imagine what world we can have with all this acting, caring and thinking people....

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